A Husband's Perspective

Sometimes it is easy to find something to blog about. Other days, not so much. Today is one of those “other” days. So, I asked my husband what he wished I had done differently since the surgery. He told me that he doesn’t think I should have done ANYTHING differently since surgery – in fact, he told me that I seem to be doing everything right – just look at the results. Hmmm, nice thoughts, but not much help when it comes to the blog.

So, I asked him what he wished I had done differently BEFORE the surgery. His answer surprised me. He said he wished I had done it sooner. The surprising thing about that is he resisted the surgery for a long, long time. I have been thinking about it for years, researching it, and talking about it. I knew that I couldn’t make this journey without his support – and for a long time, his stock answer to my questions was that he did not want me to go through more surgery. It is true – I have had more than my fair share of surgeries in my life – starting all the way back when I was 18 months old and had my tonsils removed. I know how difficult it is to sit in the waiting room while someone you love is having surgery. And he has waited many times and many hours for me.

What a blessing that he finally got the answers and reassurance that he needed to support fully this journey. He has been great – my number one cheerleader! Thank you, Dave, for all you do to make this a reality for me. He gets a lot of “second-hand” attention from all of this (much better, by the way, than second-hand smoke). One question that people ask him repeatedly is, “How do you like your new wife?” He seems to take great pride in saying, “She’s half the woman she used to be.” (Not exactly true, but close, and getting closer – it won’t be long now!)